Hey friends! Sorry I missed the
last couple of weeks. Things got pretty crazy. Now we have many things to talk
about. First thing is to talk about family dynamics. One dynamic is a diffused boundary.
A diffused boundary is a sort of boundary but not really. Like the pirate code,
it’s not really a rule it’s a guideline. An example is a house with empty
arches rather than locked doors. This is the family that’s very open. The
parents who have an open door policy. The extended family that lives all on the
same street corner and visit without calling first, all the time.
The husband and the wife have their own kind of subsystem and
the family is the system. Then there was a grandma, grandpa, cousin and uncle. The
father was going to go to set up things for the rest of the family. It was only
supposed to be six months that he was there without them but it ended up being
three years. After all that time away
from the father the family dynamic wasn’t the same. After all that time apart
the family dynamic looked more like this:
The husband and father became cut
off from the family and the wife depended more on the extended family. After
the family was all together in America it was never the same between the family.
The
next class we talked about gender and the differences between them. The main reason
there is difference is so there is balance between them. Here’s a table of differences:
There was a study that found that within weeks of birth
girls will form their mouth and “talk” to their parents whereas boys do not.
Also, fathers tend not to feel close to their infant until the child interacts
with them. For example, if the child will coo and smile in response to
something the father does, he will find a better connection than logically know
the infant is his offspring. However, The mother is immediately bound to the
child because of Oxytocin. Oxytocin is the chemical that creates bonding. This chemical
flows in women while they are giving birth and nursing.
The
next class we discussed why certain men become gay. I know, you’re going to
uproar and say “no they’re born that way!” I’m not going to spend time arguing,
here’s and article: http://www.redflagnews.com/headlines/identical-twin-studies-prove-homosexuality-is-not-genetic
Anyway, we talked about femininity and
the definition being “emotionally sensitive, loves clothing and fashion, pitch
and tone of voice, delicate, nurturing, creative, and compassionate. Now this
list describes the guy that would show up on your “gay-dar.” However, when Bro.
Williams asked the girls of the class if we’d like a husband who is each of
these things we raised our hands for a majority, if not all, of them.
We
talked about the “Exotic Becomes Erotic” (EBE) Model which is basically showing
the path one goes down before deciding homosexuality. It basically starts with
them being different.
If we factor in that they are different than the average
bear and their temperament that starts the wheels. This is how things tend to
go I’m not making an official statement about how people’s brains work. However, research shows that boys tend to need
a stronger relationship with their father and that lack of relationship is
often a factor. What I’ve learned from this information is that I need to urge
my husband to develop strong relationships with my sons, no matter what age.
That's all for now folks. Tune in later this week for a mini episode about dating!
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